The Big Lie: Motherhood, Feminism, and the Reality of the Biological Clock [Paperback]

A candid assessment of the pros and cons of delayed motherhood.Biology does not bend to feminist ideals and science does not work miracles. That is the message of this eye-opening discussion of the consequences of delayed motherhood. Part personal account, part manifesto, Selvaratnamrecounts her emotional journey through multiple miscarriages after the age of 37. Her doctor told her she still had time, but Selvaratnamfound little reliable and often conflicting information about a mature woman's biological ability (or inability) to conceive.Beyond her personal story, the author speaks to women in similar situations around the country, as well as fertility doctors, adoption counselors, reproductive health professionals, celebrities, feminists, journalists, and sociologists. Through in-depth reporting and her own experience, Selvaratnamurges more widespread education and open discussion about delayed motherhood in the hope that long-lasting solutions can take effect. The result is a book full of valuable information that will enable women to make smarter choices about their reproductive futures and to strike a more realistic balance between science, society and personal goals. A courageous, deeply personal, and unapologetically feminist exploration of delayed motherhood and infertility. This enlightening and empowering book should be required reading for every woman.”—Hillary Jordan, author of Mudbound and When She Woke“Forty may be the new thirty, and women are looking and feeling younger than their years—but try telling that to your ovaries! There is a disconnect between what women see in the mirror and what's happening to their reproductive organs. Selvaratnam's book will help women better understand their biological age and fertility health. It will also educate on the incredible advances being made in fertility treatment so that women are informed about their fertility options and choices. So pleased that Selvaratnam is furthering this dl#