The Dominance Playbook: Ways to Play With Power in Scenes and Relationships [Paperback]

In The Dominance Playbook, kink educator and lifelong power exchange fanatic Anton Fulmen builds on the fundamentals he established in The Heart of Dominance to explore beyond the basics of dominance and submission in both scenes and relationships.The Playbook includes inspiration and practical advice for a wide range of power exchange practices: administering effective punishments, providing useful service, navigating the delicate territory of sexual objectification, and other fulfilling but sometimes tricky areas of kink. Youll find invaluable guidance for creating an intense evening of power exchange play, and also for weaving power exchange into the fabric of a long term relationship - in ways that are exciting, fulfilling and sustainable for everyone.The third rule is to *be authentic to your own desires.*Put both introspection and exploration into figuring out what does and doesnt work for you. Start with your fantasies. Read other peoples stories, and books like this one, to get ideas, but dont take anyone elses way of doing power exchange as the One True Way into which you must try to mold yourself. Instead, strip them all down for parts and reassemble the parts you like into your own personal styles.Try things out to see if you like the reality of them as much as you liked the idea of them, and dont be reluctant to tweak what youre doing or return it to fantasy if doing it in the flesh doesnt feel like youd imagined it would.Be slow to attach yourself to an identity, and remain willing to allow that identity to change as you grow and evolve over time. The idea that you must fundamentally, naturally, immutably be a Dominant or a submissive or a Daddy or any other label is a misconception, and a harmful one. It pulls people away from authenticityas they strive to fit the mold of what theyve been told a slave should be like, and then become convinced that they have to stay in that mold forever.If you have a history of accommodating other peoples ló]