Being and Loving: How to Achieve Intimacy with Another Person and Retain One's Own Identity [Paperback]

From the start of life, all of us strive to achieve two goals: intimacy with another person and discovery and expression of our own identity. All too often, however, we experience these goals as conflicting.Being and Lovingis an outgrowth of Dr. Horner's work as a teacher and psychotherapist. In this book, she focuses on the image of self and of others formed in the first three years of life and guides readers down a carefully chosen path that leads to workable solution to their problems. To all those who have experienced frustration and despair born of conflict between being and loving, this book says, Give it another try. Althea J. Horner is an honorary member of the Southern California Psychoanalytic Institute and Society and a scientific associate of the American Academy of Psychoanalysis. She is listed in Who's Who in America and has been writing articles and books for forty years. While Dr. Horner has retired from clinical practice, she continues to write in Pasadena, California.

Praise for the First Edition: Althea Horner's Being and Loving discusses the most difficult problems of personal development and human existence with marvelous simplicity. What Martin Buber says about 'distancing' and 'relating' in his philosophical anthropology, she has presented in all concreteness. Using the twin poles of 'being' and 'loving' to indicate our simultaneous need for identity and intimacy, she has plotted the stages of the child's development for the first three years of its life. Illustrating with examples culled from her own practice as a psychotherapist, she draws on a wealth of knowledge of object relations and other theories of human development. Being and Loving is a book that has much to say to mental health professionals of every kind and school.. Maurice Friedman, Ph.D.

Praise for the First Edition: Being and Loving points the way out of one of the most important dilemmas of human relationships, whether in the family, between lovers, or l“-