Beyond Individualism: Toward a New Understanding of Self, Relationship, and Experience [Paperback]

Part I: The Problem of Self: In Search of a New Paradigm. The Legacy of Individualism: The Paradigm in Practice. Constructing a New Model. Part II: The Self in the Social Field: Relationship and Contact. The Self in Relation: Orienting and Contacting in the Social Field. The Self in Contact Integration and Process in the Living Field. Part III: Support, Shame, and Intimacy: The Self in Development. Support and Development: The Self in the Field. Shame and Inhibition: The Self in the Broken Field. The Restoration of Self: Intimacy, Intersubjectivity, and Dialogue. Part IV: The Integrated Self: Narrative, Culture, and Health. Self as Story: Narrative, Culture, and Gender. Conclusion: Ethics, Ecology, and Spirit: The Healthy Self.In this pathbreaking and provocative new treatment of some of the oldest dilemmas of psychology and relationship, Gordon Wheeler challenges the most basic tenet of the West cultural tradition: the individualist self. Characteristics of this self-model are our embedded yet pervasive ideas that the individual self precedes and transcends relationship and social field conditions and that interpersonal experience is somehow secondary and even opposed to the needs of the inner self. Assumptions like these, Wheeler argues, which are taken to be inherent to human nature and development, amount to a controlling cultural paradigm that does considerable violence to both our evolutionary self-nature and our intuitive self-experience.  He asserts that we are actually far more relational and intersubjective than our cultural generally allows and that these relational capacities are deeply built into our inherent evolutionary nature.

His argument progresses from the origins and lineage of the Western individualist self-model, into the basis for a new model of the self, relationship, and experience lÓx