The New Male Sexuality The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure [Paperback]

The New Male Sexualityaddresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them.  Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences.  the result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling.

Clear, comprehensive, witty, and refreshingly realistic,The New Male Sexualityis destined to be a classic of the nineties and beyond."Packed with solid information and sensible advice...A well-rounded picture of the emotional components of male sexuality."--Publisher's WeeklyBernie Zilbergeld(1939–2002) was the author ofThe New Male Sexuality. He received his PhD in clinical psychology from the University of California, Berkeley, and was the head of the Men’s Program and co-director of clinical training at the Human Sexuality Program, University of California, San Francisco.One very powerful way of increasing arousal is through role-playing or the acting out of fantasies.

Many years ago I was involved with a woman who sometimes would drop into a role in the middle of sex. She would suddenly say something like, "You haven't been a good boy today, so you're not going to get any." Since what we can't have is infinitely more exciting than what we can, my passion immediately skyrocketed, even though I knew she was only acting. I fell into step and would start apologizing and begging. She would repeat her refusal and give in gradually. "Well, okay, since you apologized, you can touch my pussy, but that's it. Just a touch." This would progress through steps including "You can put it in but only halfway. Not an inch further" and "Okay, your behavior is getting better, so you canlsŸ