We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love [Paperback]

If you and your prospective partner adopt the principles and skills I describe here, your relationshipwillbe successfulnot just for starters, but for the long run.

An indispensable guide for any couple ready to set the foundation for a loving and lasting union

Committing fully to a loving partnershipa we can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences youll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging.Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances go down from there. So how do you beat the odds?

All successful long-term relationships aresecurerelationships, writes psychotherapist Stan Tatkin. You and your partner take care of each other in a way that ensures you both feel safe, protected, accepted, and secure at all times.

InWe Do,Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. Youll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love. Highlights include:


Create a shared vision for your relationship, the key to a strong foundation
Its all about preventionlearn tools and techniques for preventing problems before they occur
Understand how to work with the psychological and biological influences in your relationshipneuroscience, arousal regulation, attachment theory, and more
Numerous case studies with helpful examples of healthy and unhealthy interactions, sample dialogues, and reflections
Dozens of exercisesthe newlywed game, reading facial expressions, and many more fun and serious practices to develop intimacy and security
Handling conflicthow to broker win-win outcomes
Build a loving relationship that helps you thrive and grow as both individuals and a couple

Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, alS+