Divorce Busting A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again [Paperback]

In this groundbreaking book, Michele Weiner-Davis gives straightforward, effective advice on preventing divorce and how couples can stay together instead of coming apart.

Using case histories to illustrate her marriage-enriching, divorce-preventing techniques, which can be used even if only one partner participates, Weiner-Davis shows readers:

* How to leave the past behind and set attainable goals
* Strategies for identifying problem-solving behavior that works—and how to make changes last
* Uncommon-sense methods for breaking unproductive patterns

Inspirational and accessible,Divorce Bustingshows readers in pain that working it out is better than getting out.Chapter 1

Divorce Is Not the Answer

The decision to divorce or remain together to work things out is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. It is crucial for those considering divorce to anticipate what lies ahead in order to make informed decisions. Too often the fallout from divorce is far more devastating than many people realize when contemplating the move. This chapter outlines some of the common pitfalls of divorce to aid readers in decisions about their marriages.

The following is a letter written by a woman who read an article about my views on divorce in theLos Angeles Times:

Dear Ms. Weiner-Davis:

My age is sixty-seven, and after nineteen years of a marriage that was impossible in my opinion, I did seek a divorce. I sincerely believed that my children and I would be better off if I got out of the marriage, and this was confirmed and encouraged by therapists. I should have tried harder to make our lives better. I should have changed myself more. I wish I knew then all the things I know now. It takes so long to attain wisdom, when it is needed when one is young.

I was forty and attractive and wanted to grow, and did not like the way my children were, emotionally, living with the tl(