Postpartum depression is hard on a marriage. In their private practices, authors Karen Kleiman and Amy Wenzel often find themselves face-to-face with marriages that are suffocating, as if the depression has sucked the life out of a relationship that was only prepared for the anticipated joy of pending childbirth. What happens to marriage? Why do couples become angry, isolated, and disconnected?
Tokens of Affectionlooks closely at marriages that have withstood the passing storm of depression and are now seeking, or in need of, direction back to their previous levels of functioning and connectedness. The reader is introduced to a model of collaboration that refers to 8 specific features, which guide postpartum couples back from depression. These features, framed as Tokens, are based on marital therapy literature and serve as a reminder that these are not just communication skill-building techniques; they are gift-giving gestures on behalf of their relationship. A reparative resource,
Tokens of Affectionhelps couples find renewed harmony, a solid relational ground, and reconnection.Foreword
A. Wenzel 1. Your Current Married State 2. When Depression Descends 3. The Connection 4. Secrets of a Successful Marriage: The Tokens 5. Connection Strategies 6. Token of Esteem 7. Token of Collaboration 8. Token of Compromise 9. Token of Selflessness 10. Token of Sanctuary 11. Token of Expression 12. Token of Tolerance 13. Token of Loyalty 14. Bumps in the Road 15. What's Next?
Postpartum Depression knocks most couples off their feet and Tokens of Affectionserves as a solid 'grab bar' for regaining balance. Written with humor, sensitivity, and remarkable insight, Kleiman and Wenzel have created a practical and effective roadmap for couples seeking enhanced connection and stability, not only during the postpartum period but at ANY phase of their lives. - Margaret HowarlSJ